I'm breastfeeding and pumping (and have a scrip for domperidone), but Joel also gets formula. Gobbles it down. I don't know of he's just not getting my hindmilk, or what, but he lurves his little bottles. cool. a bit of mom guilt on the formula front? yup.
we gave him a soother tonight.. 17 days with a soother already is probably going to eff up what bf relationship we had, but he would not soothe otherwise. Well, sucking my finger for hours at a time also worked, but it's a bit limiting. so soother guilt - yup, got that too.
i have also put him in the playpen - excuse me, playyard- on his tummy a few times. and know what? he sleeps a lot better than on his back, as recommended. going to mom hell? looks like it.
i know that the only things that matter are that he's loved (he very much is) & that he's growing/developing normally. which, according to the dr he also is. regained his birth weight even... but i still feel like i'm doing him a disservice with everything. but i don't want to starve him, etc, hence the mom guilt.
and wow, only 17 days and i feellike this - what will the next 17 yrs bring???
I'm going to address each of your guilts:
ReplyDelete1) Squish was supplemented, and she's a pretty awesome, smart, well-rounded, attached, healthy kid. It might be short-term supplementing, it might be long term. As long as he's eating, it's good. "love 'em and feed 'em" doesn't specify how he's fed.
2) Soother guilt? Balderdash (yes, I just said balderdash). My kids had them from the day they got home from the hospital. I call it volume control. :oP
3) My doc actually recommended letting Snort sleep on her tummy for a bit when I was present to watch her.
You're doing great.
Welcome to parenthood, one looooooong guilt trip. Ain't it great??? My thinking with kids and changing my parenting plan is: if it doesn't hurt them emotionally or physically and it makes life easier for everyone... then it is okay.
ReplyDeleteYou are doing great! keep it up!